Stop Being the Peacemaker: Be Powerful

I like to call myself a recovering peacemaker. I used to take that as a badge of honor: I go in and I help make everybody put everything at peace. But that is crazy because I cannot make peace. I cannot make anybody be at peace. I may have been delusional to think that was what was happening. Essentially, I was moving pieces around and perhaps shifting the waters just a bit so that the boat did not rock at all anymore. But everybody is still in the same boat. Everybody is still troubled. Everybody is still hurt. Everybody is still confused when the next little rock comes along and they are reminded that we did not fix anything. 

We do not need to take on the call of peacemaking. We just have to become peaceful. When we dislodge the anchor, when we release whatever is tethered, we can trust that we will find our way. We do not need things to be right or wrong, good or bad. We just need to be. I think that is what God meant– if you are Christian, but I think every religion teaches something similar– when He said to tell others, "I am." This is my reference when I say, "I am Traci." Who you think I am is irrelevant; I am who I know that I am.  

While other people are throwing people off the boats as they figure out they are capsizing, I am peace. When you dislodge your own freaking anchor, you figure out that you can still step on the water and walk all the way on the water without falling. But if you're lodged or anchored, you do not even know what it means. You are not testing anything. You have not even lived. I think one of the greatest examples I have is when I became single, I sat in a parking lot. I probably had a really big cry, and I said to God, "What I'm about to pray to you for, God, it's probably going to come under that line of 'that's not good'." 

And I felt within, God say to me, "My goodness, child, I've been waiting on you. Where have you been? Welcome to life. Would you please come live and give me the opportunity to walk and live with you?" 

This became the beginning of the release, the dislodging of anchors not just from within my family,  but also dislodging them from all these beliefs that I had: religious beliefs, educational beliefs, work beliefs, career beliefs, money beliefs. Yes, I can and should be wealthy. Yes, I absolutely can and should be spiritual and not be held by dogmas and tenets that are not creating safety for me in the name of being godly. That is not healthy. I can release those tenants, and I can give love and compassion to those who have not necessarily been compassionate and loving to me, once I know where they stop, and I know how to say to them, "I am. You shall not disrupt this." Stop being the peacemaker: be powerful.

As the founder of Arts2Health2Wellness, Traci is dedicated to guiding the resilient back to their inherent lightness, joy, and self-love through creative dream productions. Traci helps those who have felt powerless for too long reclaim their natural purity and rewrite their stories of resilience into legacies of trust, faith, and love.

Schedule a consultation or coaching session with Traci Patterson Cook by emailing dream@iamtraci.com

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